Stop comparing yourself to other people. Seriously.
I’ve come across a lot of posts lately, and had some messages, too, from people who are having a hard time coping with the world as it is right now. But they then go on to say ‘but there are people who have it so much worse than I do.’
And you know, that might be true. In fact, it probably is true.
That doesn’t mean you don’t get to have feelings. It doesn’t mean you can’t be scared, and sad, and worried about your own future. Your feelings are valid no matter where you stand in life; whether you’re someone with a lot or a little, whether you’re sick or healthy. Your feelings are valid, and no one has the right to tell you that they aren’t, just because ‘you don’t have it as bad’ as someone else.
Did you hear me?
Your feelings are valid. You don’t have to apologize for having them.
Yes, it’s absolutely good to acknowledge the good stuff in your life; that you have a home, that you’re warm and safe and have food, etc. But that doesn’t mean you’re not allowed to feel lots of other things too, without apologizing for those feelings or being guilty for having them. James Corden did a thing recently, and he expressed how overwhelmed with sadness he is, and he was lambasted for it because he’s a celebrity, because he’s wealthy.
You know? Fuck that.
We are all worried, we are all scared, we are all overwhelmed. He’s allowed to be sad, no matter where he is in life. It’s not a fucking comparison, or a contest. He has feelings, just like you and I and the young people and the elderly do. They might be different feelings, they might come from a different place, but we all have the right to feel things in the face of global madness. And it’s okay to talk about them.
In fact, talking about them allows other people to think maybe they can too, and in doing so, we create communication and a world where we are together in our fears instead of alone in our terrors.